Hey,
Just a small debate here.. How do you define love??
Is it just something which people do it for their personal gain??
Is it something for the sake of just living with someone??
Is it just another term for lust?? or infactuation...???
Do you really think Love makes a person dependant on the other for his/her happiness??
Or is it pure feelings comes out directly from heart for unconditionally??
Friends shoot your thoughts on this.. and lets have a discussion on this.... :)
Friday, March 14, 2008
Love - Who got it defined.
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She's right.. when the lover goes away.. there goes the happiness too.. so that makes a person dependant on lover..
- Sandeep
I think u got ur point wrong here.. According to me, noone can be dependant on anyone for their happiness... I would suggest you to please have recap of your thinkings.. :)
- shyam Mohan
@ sandeep - Man, U cant depend on anything for love... Its all about understanding and knowing each other.. If u r depending, then you aremaking a mistake....
::Jithu::
Ha!!
Again!!
Mr. Sandeep Anony,
You are mistaken, absolutely, thoroughly and completely!!
Whose weird theory is this???
I have not seen any single person finding a lover to attain happiness...
And on the statement, "lover goes way..there goes the happiness too" - If you can make a habit of expecting the unexpected, then I think no one will mourn over the past. I have a quick question. Are you a person who depends on past???
-Terence
And one more thing, IF you are linking love, happiness and dependency so strongly, then if love goes away, the other two are also gone including the dependency..
So.......What are you trying to tell here???(!!!)
- Terence
In that case, terrence.. Let me know ur definition for love?
Love is neither defined nor destructed!!!!!!!!......How could u tried to define something which is far beyond ur expectations & imaginations ..so better don't waste ur time by defining dis love, let me add 1 thing love is always gr8 but it will not stoop before anybody..it will come out easly even if obstucles found over it.
what really happened to you mr. J??
U asking about love.
no one will ever believe :D
According to me, Love can be defined as :
A state of mind till you come to realise that he or she can't be the same anymore...
@ UK - It does not difene the feeling LOVE... It just describes it.. :)
tell when will you fel that you are in true love...
Keep smiling..
::Jithu::
I think love happens when you feel "this is the right person for you". You feel he undestands you well and you will have a happy life with this person but that doesn't mean Love makes us dependent on the other person for happiness.
Joona
Love cant be defined...its a feeling which is coming out of from heart….if the love which am feeling is unconditional from the other end, I would be free as much I was earlier and it won’t make any uncomfortably for me...I think we should be open with our partner…and when it comes about dependence, of course I give importance to my love’s happiness and I wish he should be happy always…it doesn’t mean that we are totally dependent on other...but still we need them also be happy for make ourselves more happy….that’s exactly love….wishing that our better half should be happy even without the presence of ourselves by making them feel that we are always with them in each and every moment of life….
Dear Deepz,
U said it that we are not completely dependant. But still you are!! i think that love makes people dependant.
Why do u wish that ur better half should be happy? to return the same happiness?
Dear Anonymous,
Yeah of course, am dependent on my love… See, if he is in trouble or he has got a big issue so that he cant be happy, it would affect me also…love is a kind of bond which requires sharing things includes happiness, tears, issues and everything….so we cant say that the two people in love are absolutely independent in the case of emotions..
And about my concern about his happiness, it’s not at all for returning the same happiness…but it’s my concern for him that he should be happy…and about my happiness, it’s his concern…I think he should take care of my happiness…Am I right?
If you don’t mind, can I have your name please??
Hey People, I really don't understand the point of you people using the word - "Dependant" here.. I wanna tell you guys/girls that, Its not dependancy that gets love going in life.. Its all about understanding and knowing each others.. U actually do not DEPEND ur partner for ur happiness instead u find your happiness in ur partner..
What you all say???
Keep smiling
::Jithu::
Absolutely jithu…it’s not a kind of dependency. .but sharing ,understanding and knowing each other is love…and what I said is if we are thinking about someone else’s happiness and good life, it can be a kind of mental dependency which makes us also to be happy. Coz we feel happy na, if our partner is also very happy? That kind of emotional balances…if am happy with my partner and he is not happy with me, how can I say that it’s a healthy relationship. I don’t know what I anticipated is came out through the word dependency…it doesn’t mean that we should have one’s hand to walk, support to stand and words to speak out…but we need emotional support from our loved one always to withstand in bad situations.
Folks,
This is a forward of the comment made in Neena's blog
Neena,
We need to be clear on what you are because you have publicly made a statement
"People say that me & my views/thoughts are ridiculos!! After going through my views, Lemme know!!!"
and talking to an anonymous does not make sense to me at all.
I was just reviewing all your posts and i came to a partial conclusion that you are basically a cynic.
I gave it a second thought too, honestly.
And why are you going for a theoretical definition of love. You cannot put some mandates/rules/definitions on what should be love.
I dont think no lover follows/will follow it.
Love is a never ending topic for discussion as you know.
I dont want to give a quick definition for love to you.
Basically you are exposing your inexperience. Inexperience does not mean non-existence in any angle.
Remember, there are people who loved each other, still loving each other and going to love each other and
they are still living in this world.
You cannot just make a blind statement, rather "Neena's theory of love" and make it a universal truth.
Cynicism is not all a good attitude my dear friend....It will demolish you.
Hope you will get out this cynical mess one day... That day will be the most beautiful day in you life.
Realization that someone loves you very dearly, itself makes your whole life worthwhile!!
I think it is a waste of time trying to define love. Certainly true love does not go away when lover goes away.But the most sublime state of love is that between the mother and child
Here goes the story
Mother and son .......son falls in love with a beauty....she wants to test his love,demands to bring his mother's heart as a proof of his love
So the son kills his mother takes out the heart and is running to his love to present her the heart dripping with blood . He stumbles on a stone and falls down . He hears the voice of his mother....." son are you hurt ? how many times I told you to watch out your steps go ahead don't stumble on obstacles " ....and that is true love even after it has stopped it's beating it is concerned .....for her child .............Thankam
If you search the history the monument of love .......Tajmahal it really symolises the true love . Shajahan built it in memory of his wife Mumtaz when she died soon after delivering his 8th ( or 9th I am not sure refer Mugal History )child She died off bleeding (postpartum haemorrhage ). He mourned for her the remaing life and built the greatest monument for love .
I like to talk about another monument this one in Japan .
A dog and its master .The dog used to accompany the master to the railway station daily and waited for the return in the evening .One day the master did not return ..... the dog waited and waited ........ never leaving the station with out it's master .. Finally it died .A monument was built the statue of the dog . I think the dogs are trustworthy....they will truely love us .....dont know cheating Symbol of true love ......Thankam
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