Live Stunt Performance

It was an eventful last Saturday… We had an internal cricket match – The BALLZ Trophy between SJR Warriors and PURVA Fighter, and were on our way to Flippers ground near Devanahalli airport early morning. I was with Rakesh, Munna, Murthy and Dev in his car.

We stopped near the ground for breakfast so that some more guys joined us in Yogi’s car. And we had one extra person who just came in by bus. So we called up Sunil to come by bike and pick that guy to the ground. As he came in I thought, I will go with Sunil. We started off and in between its engine stopped. We tried our best to start it but I didn’t. Then Dev’s car came in and his idea of opening the petrol lid while starting worked. (New Tip if your Bike is pulsar and it stopped in between you can try this tip – It was evolved from his years of experience it seems – Provided that your bike has enough fuel in the tank). So as Rakesh started the bike, he was interested in the ride. So Sunil got inside Dev’s car and we – Raki and me came by bike. We reached the ground before Dev’s car and I was standing near the parking waiting for them so that I can collect my kit from his car.

Almost all the brats were inside that car. As they were approaching the parking area which is in the side of the ground, don’t know who provoked Dev to frighten me -Dev thought of making me panic by taking the car closer to me in high speed… As I didn’t know about the stupid driving skills of Dev, I was expecting him to apply the brakes. It reminded many of the film Matrix where the hero stops the bullet with his hands… But in this case it was just an imagination. Whatever I expected didn’t happen.. He was very late to apply the brakes and it was so close to me and as the car was in high speed, it skidded and then hit me on my knees and my left hand his on the bonnet as I was trying to stop... It was awesome feeling to be thrown some 6-8 feet away in the air… especially after hit by a car!! (Trust me! I felt like I am bungee jumping) but then later I felt the fir in my A$$. My left palm was like being crushed! I was surprised to see that other than my left hand, no other damage!! Hmm, I am a very strong man – Bravo!!!! However after some 2minutes panic I was disappointed that I didn’t faint or anything else to give it a bit spicy touch. Luckily nothing happened to the car  except some dents and curves on the bonnet… My other friends who were there standing on the other end of the ground came in hearing the loud noise… And all were in fact got surprised to see me in good shape. In fat I myself was so surprised!!  I heard someone shouting, it’s like this car hit by a cargo truck!!! Grrrr.. I will find out that guy very soon… 

Though my left had swelling I played the match by putting bandage on my hand and applying the painkiller spray – Hmm The Lion heart fellow :P. In the end of the day, we the SJR Warriors won the first match in so called BALLZ Trophy.

PS: To all those who still wanted to take chances against me – Dev was hit by a bouncer and was forced to retired hurt! So guys “Mujse Panga nahin lene ka…” If at all I leave you, GOD wouldn’t  leave you because I am his best buddy”

Good day!

The great Wipro Marathon!

Spirit of Wipro!

On a fine evening of September; Sep-5th to be specific, I received a message from my friend KUMBA (that’s his pet name – KUMBA in our language means - Tummy) who works in Wipro, asking us to join for the Wipro marathon. He knows us very well that he had mentioned very clearly that there will be a Free T-shirt and food to everyone who participates in the marathon run... :). As it was on 6th morning 7 and I didn’t have any other work than sleeping, I thought I will not miss that T-shirt... Also, I can see some Great runners in my previous company whom I couldn’t meet when I was there at Wipro... Especially the female runners....LOL... My roommate was anyways not interested to come, as he didn’t want to trust KUMBA at all and waste his sleep on a Saturday morning, as KUMBA is notorious for playing prank on his friends always!! However, I decided to trust him and set the alarm to 6.30Am and hit the bed for a tight sleep...


Next day I got up at 6.30 and got ready, KUMBA picked me up from the Agara-junction and we were hurrying to the Wipro Sarjapur office, as we were getting late.. While going KUMBA was saying, - “Man No running business, just get the T-shirt and escape.. I can’t run early morning!!” As we were entering, the first marathon was kicking off, the shortest version - only 4kms! KUMBA asked me to register at the gates and he rushed inside the parking which is again some 100meters away from the Gates. Before I could tell him that I need him with me while registering, he had already left the place... The security did not allow me to register as I was not a Wipro employee and also not guided by one! Finally I had to call up KUMBA to come back and register my name for the marathon. Being a born lazy bug, he tried to resolve it over the phone, but did not work...So he came back to the Gates - all the way by walk. I saw him wearing the Wipro's Marathon special T-shirt! I said, if I don’t get one, I am going to grab his T-shirt for sure... He said – “Come fast the shortest Marathon already started, we should join it; else we will have to run for the Longest one, which is 10kms...” I said, “Boss, Are we really going to run or we are here just to get the T-shirt and the free food??” Surprisingly he said – “My friends and colleagues are there, Lets at least participate and justify for taking the T-shirt!!” I was shocked to hear it from KUMBA!!Then I realized he was kidding... After all he is KUMBA! :D, His plan was to run till the main gate and join then escape from there, by limping.. Finally I got my T-shirt.. Half of the mission accomplished... Now we got to know one more thing... When we start the long marathon, later sometime, we will find the shortest marathon guys coming back to the start point... So we planned to start with the longer marathon and finish with the Short marathon guys: D...


So the marathon was started, and as per our plan, we saw the shortest marathon runners coming back soon after some 100meters from the main gate.. We were all set to limp.. Then we took a smart turn from a crowded place and started to run back as if we are dying to finish the 4km marathon... But as we were approaching the finishing line, we saw that everyone who returns to the finishing point got some blue paint sprayed on their t-shirt.. I felt happy... Good that we didn't go with them; else the t-shirt would be spoiled... I couldn't see KUMBA, as he was running to beat the real runners at the finishing line... I was not that big cheater like him, so I was walking towards the finishing line with some tired runners.. But as soon as I crossed the finishing line, one volunteer came to me and asked, "Hey you did not complete the run right??" I was shocked, how the hell he came to know this!! Anyways, I didn’t feel like lying.. I said - "No, I had a muscle pull.. So i came back walking...” Then later I came to now that, The blue paint I saw sprayed on them was a proof for them to reach the 2km spot before reaching the finish line... I looked around... Everyone except the volunteers has got the blue paint on their T-shirt!! And all are glaring at us!! ahem ahem.. Who cares, I am not working in Wipro...


Then we thought ok, let’s go in and have the breakfast.. We both went inside on the lawn where all the REAL runners were resting and having their breakfast... We took one box each and sat in a corner.. In the box, we found something similar to a Tuna Puff- My favorite!, a Cup cake, A bottle of Appy and some coconut biscuits...Hmm yummy!! We both looked at each other were laughing!! We are not worthy of this, as we didn’t even run 200meters!! But, we were not that bad to waste the food we took.. But then, I found that, the puffs I got was empty inside!! And the same with KUMBA!! We felt, what the FISH!!! Azim Premji is not that kanjuse to have a breakfast of this kind!! But then we realized, only we both got empty puffs... May be the makers would have forgot or purposefully wouldn’t have filled inside some of them and God kept those for us!! Hmm... We both looked at each other again, and said, God is great!!


But we never gave up, we carried on eating the remaining and finished it in hurry and left the place quickly!!

While coming out of the Wipro main gate, The posters read this way – Spriti of Wipro… and my mind was saying, "Run Jithu Run!! Run and escape!!!!!!!!!"

The friendship day, that could never forget...

Yea it was on 3rd of August... I was in my room as I was on sick leave... My shoulder was injured in the previous day's match. My best buddy was in Bangalore with me as he landed from Dubai last week and had come to Bangalore for couple of days. He was staying with me. We reached our room by 7 in the night after some shopping and meetings. By the time we reached room some of our friends were waiting to meet him. He had brought a Johnny walker Black label full bottle for his friends... And all were having a good time with lots of food, cool drinks etc. All of them were certified drunkards that they finished the full bottle in 30mins and had to go outside and buy one more bottle...all were drunk and were making noise and i was struggling to control them so that the owner who lives in the first floor won't come down and throw me out.. In the meantime, my buddy was so desperate to show his capacity by accepting a challenge to drink so called BOMB - which is actually beer mixed with scotch whiskey(said to be a deadly combination by professionals). It was said that after having one peg of bomb, the person would lose his senses in not more than 5mins and will be flat. My buddy was already 4 pegs down, still accepted the challenge and had not 1, not 2 but 3 bombs. He was so happy to see that he is all fine after 3 bombs! By then all others also had enough and left the place by 1AM leaving me and my best buddy in the room..

I was about to sleep then I saw the after effects of the so called BOMB! I could see colorful texture made up of afternoon Mexican wave pizza to the last eaten grilled chicken on my floor. So on the friendship day, I was all alone cleaning up all the outcome of so called BOMB on my bed and the floor. I asked my buddy to go to the bathroom and wash his face... Then I heard a sound Bang!! I rushed into the bathroom and all I could see is that my wash basin is fell down and broken as he was using it to support his body!!

So I had to keep it aside and take him to the bed. And at 2.40AM when I went to bed, all i had in mind is how to get it fixed without letting my PG owner know about that! So I was about to shutdown my laptop, so when my friend saw me online that time, called me up and asked, "Hey buddy, wasup? Are you still awake? How was the friendship day? I think you are having a great time!” I was struggling to find new words to describe him my happiness #$#@$%#%#!$!#$!#$*)*()%@$.

But we all had real fun... After all its friendship... it’s all there in the game! :) But I must say one thing - The OUTCOME of BOMB really sucks!!!

PS: As the hero do not want to spoil his reputation for having a huge capacity and stamina, he had requested me not to tell about this incident to anyone else. Hence, I am not revealing his name!! - But i am sure, You people can easily guess the person Hee heee ... no harm meant :P
LOL

Feeling nostalgic...

I still remember, it was raining when I left home for the first time for my studies to NTTF... I don’t know why I feel so nostalgic whenever it rains.. Here sitting in the office on a boring Sunday evening with a cup of Nescafe black coffee in my hand, my mind slipped into the past… The time which I could never get back in my lifetime again… When I think about that reality, I feel very sad… In fact it tells me… I am getting old… Yea.. I am no more a kid… It makes me really sad because I love to keep a naughty kid inside me all the time... But at times when I behave like a child, people used to ask me – “Have you gone nuts?” But it doesn’t affect me at all… I love to act like a kid at times – at least to my parents... to my sister… while playing with her kid, in fact any kids… while being in the midst of my dear friends… Some people do understand me; but some might think that I am not matured… But no one knows that it’s a matured guy trying to go back to his younger days… trying to do what he enjoys doing… And I must tell that I will do the same no matter what others say… I enjoy being a kid until unless it’s not required to be so…

Now I am in a perfect mood to get into a nostalgic mood... Slow melodies in the background… nobody nearby me in the office on a Sunday eve…Hot Nescafe … kind of cloudy climate… perfect... Last time when I had gone to my hometown, It was raining when I landed from the bus… after getting down out of the bus, I caught an auto and while going I saw my schools (LP, UP and the High school), the school ground… they all were telling me stories… I reached my home sweet home… As usual my Mom was waiting for me at the door step after preparing my favorite idly and Onion Chatney… She looks tired, but never expresses it when I am around – something only a mother could do… My 7 years old cat is still there with her 7-8 kittens of different ages… are they also telling me some stories?

I sleep in my parents’ room whenever I go home… I went to my room upstairs… nobody uses it now… but all the memories are still living in there… My old cricket kit… My posters… ohh… I felt sad when I felt that I would never be going to my college with my kit again… I could have sold it off… But I did not… I had a dream of my son learning cricket basics with those…I know it won’t last that long… but still no need to pay for hoping so :)… I walk around my house in my every visit… every room.. Every corner… all those tell me different stories… just a quick revision of the past, like reading main points before the exam bell…

There my old friends were waiting for me… 2-3 of them had come from abroad for a short vacation and will be going back in a week’s time… So wanted to spend some good time with them… We all had real fun.. We played a cricket match while it was raining cats and dogs. It’s not the match we were crazy about, but the time we get to have together with all the old memories… we were really like young kids playing cricket in that rain… Those who were traveling in the buses and other vehicles were looking at us like anything but who cares? (:-P) We were not done yet… Soon after finishing the match… we went to the paddy field at around 4.30PM… climate is the same… only difference if it was cricket in the afternoon, now it’s the time for playing football!! (:D)Heavy rain…

Huge Paddy field with water level of around 1-2 feet from the ground by the railway track on the backside…Yummy, what a scene…. We had real fun for another 2-3 hours… only sad part was we forgot take the camera to capture these wonderful moments… But no problem, these memories imprinted in each one’s mind for ever… Once we finished playing football, we were like pigs in the mud… Mud all over the body… And guess we were not yet done! We directly went to the temple pond and jumped into that and took a bath… When I reached home, I was like a wet golden retriever! I stood outside the house… my dad got me a bucket and a towel… I dropped my dresses in that bucket went straight to the bathroom… took a proper bath and came out… Though my whole body was paining so much, I did enjoy the pain (there are very rare moments in life where we enjoy the pains…)

The other day I spent completely sitting inside my house and shopping with my dad and mom… It was so cloudy that at 1PM it looked like its 7PM in the night! This time, I really enjoyed the beauty of Kerala… The pleasure of friendship… the comfort of family… A totally enjoyed trip I must say… And while coming back to Bangalore with a pack of my mom-made sweet ADA for my friends in Bangalore, it was still drizzling… It has come not just to send me off with a heart full of memories but tempting me to make another trip to my home sweet home….

live show on the move...

I was on my way to hometown on a Saturday night... We (Unisys cricket team) had a cricket match in the afternoon which lasted till 5.30PM! We all were happy in the end as we won that close match but I got damn tired by the time I got inside the bus... The bus was almost empty... Some 10-12 people that’s it... May be because of that they did not play any movie :(... I was getting bored…

Soon after 15-20 minutes (we hadn’t even crossed the city limits...) I heard people shouting from behind… I looked back with anxiety… I could see 3-4 guys were having an argument with a decent looking guy... Something interesting! The decent looking guy was in a Green T-shirt with specs… and other 3-4 guys were not that decent looking… one among them was a giant.. A huge black fat guy… The actual problem was that, they are shouting at the Green t-shirt guy that he did something with one of their friend’s wife who sits just in front of that guy. The Green T-shirt guy says that he did not do anything… but these guys are shouting and shouting… At first it was just an argument… but they started hitting him… that poor guy was trying to hit back... But that huge black guy was too big to resist… After getting 3-4 blows on his face, the bus owner came to the scene from the cabin and calmed down the situation… He was brought to the front seat and made to sit there… though the Green shirt guy was saying that he did not do anything, the giant guy insisted on taking him to the front seat… The woman also said he did something with his hands from behind… he kept on saying he did not do that… The way he was looking and talking it was hard for me to believe that he did something of that sort… That giant guy was drunk… And I felt that this poor guy (green T-shirt) would have tried to open the glass window and that lady would have misunderstood as he is trying to do something else.

I have no idea who is lying. Either case, it’s none of my business as I am not disturbed as such. Anyways it’s all calmed down now… I fell asleep soon… I woke all of a sudden hearing some strange sounds… When I stood up all I could see is that the giant black guy shouting and kicking that poor Green shirt guy… When I leaned over the seats, I could see him on the floor, taking each and every kick from the black guy on his chest and stomach... I felt like I am watching a live WWF program inside the bus! He was lifting him and throwing him to the floor… very soon the owner came to the scene again and started shouting at them. Even the owner was drunk... He was trying to threaten the giant guy by saying - “If you don’t keep quiet, I will hit you…” (It was very funny to listen to his dialogs as he was not even half of that giant guy!!) May be this is what we call as ATTITUDE (:-P)

The reason for the second fight, I got to know after sometime… This Green T-shirt guy went to that woman when the bus stopped for dinner and asked about the matter… those guys were not there, they went out for dinner… she stayed back as she had to take care of her kid… And later once they came back, she told them the story and they again got provoked… He threatened them as well saying he will take revenge for what they did to him when they reach his hometown and all… rest was history (:-D). And at Palaghat next day morning he (The Green T-shirt guy) got down without speaking a word… Without looking at anybody… very silently he went off… Though those guys were expecting him to say something… No matter what others say, I really felt sad for that guy…

I seriously believe that the Green T-shirt guy would have felt insulted in front of other for something which he hadn’t done… and maybe he wanted to prove his innocence or take revenge on those guys… That’s quite natural, I won’t blame him… He should have finished it by saying a sorry and not by going for an argument to a group of arrogant drunkards… Anyways, I still can’t forget that Green T-shirt guy’s face… For a while I was just thinking being in his shoes… It would have been very irritating for me for a very long time, if something that sort happens to me… And I don’t know how I would be reacting to such situation… Ohh God please don’t test me with these sorts of situation ever in life!!

The Unforgettable Treat!

2 weeks ago, I received a mail from my friend - Sangy, saying that she is coming to Bangalore on her way back to Pune from Paris. She had been to Paris for some official (God only knows!) trip. She was asking me to meet up once she come there as its been long time since we all met. Also she asked me to coordinate with Munch, another stupid friend of mine... In fact both these friends of mine are going to getting married soon and hence I'v been expecting a treat from both of these (though both of them are big time misers...). Also there was another common friend of me and Sangy, her name is Anu (happily married and settled in balgalore) who is working in my company. She asked me to check whether she can meet with her as well. We have been communicating through emails.. She was replying to all our mails very interestingly until I sent Sangy a small list of items (very obvious) which she was requested/ordered to bring from Paris (idiot, Kanjuse #$@#!$!#$)... after that no response!! She just sent a mail to us saying that she will meet us on Friday.. That’s it!!How mean!

My plan was - to meet, both Sangy and Munch, get treats from both of them and then take Sangy to Anu's house so naturally she will also treat us with some feast as we have never been to her house before.. Ahem ahem.. And I called up Anu and told, I will take Sangy to her house by around 4PM so that she can prepare Chicken biriyani :) I told her That is what Sangy expect( ME)..).. To my surprise, Anu agreed!!! ahem ahem.. I thought 4PM meal is fixed now. Now lunch.. Munch recently got engaged, so that treat is also pending... Ahem ahem.. To my surprise all have agreed to treat!! God, what’s happening!! ahem ahem...

So Friday morning after the work, I reached room.. I was trying to install a game (NFS) in my laptop.. but it was giving some stupid error and because of that i couldn't sleep till 11, as I went to bed, I got Munch's call saying Sangy has reached and we shall meet up at 12PM in forum mall. I said, You guys carry on, I shall catch up by 4pm.. Then she said - “no no.. Sangy is sponsoring lunch for us.. So let’s all meet by 1pm only..” Ok fine, I agreed. I took bath and went straight to Forum mall.. From there I called them up... They said, they are in Westside, doing some shopping.. My first mistake.. I went to a shopping center to meet them.. I really did not understand even after they got nothing to buy they were checking out each and every products.. I was like @#$!#$!##!$...
After some 40mins of so called shopping, we came out.. Then she was asking lets have snacks, because Sangy's cousin brother would be joining us for the lunch.. I thought great.. Let me start killing Munch first, then lunch with Sangy then 4pm chicken biriyani with Anu.. But then I came to know, that stupid Anu had chosen second shift and escaped silently.. :( - Chicken biriyani cut! However as Munch asked what we will have, I said, ok lets have 1 bucket chicken from KFC.. They both said yes, and went inside.. I was outside as if I was busy with a phone call.. Smart na ;)
but they turned out smarter than me.. They came back to me and started saying “we are treating you with lunch, you treat us with snacks!!!" Though I tried to resist for a while, I had to give up as people started staring at us.. So one bucket KFC chicken sponsored by me!! :( How sad!

As soon as we finished that, Sangy said, hey cousin has come, let’s go and have lunch now..She thought she is smart, as after having a bucket of KFC chicken our stomach would been full. But she never knew me... ha ha ha.. We straight away went to Empirer and where I ordered items by looking at the right hand side part of the menu!! :D Chicken kabab, chilly chicken, fish fry, chilly prawns, chicken biriyani, mutton biriyani, prawns biriyani, bla bla bla.. I didn’t even know which all dishes i ordered, though I could hear Sangy yelling, you order whatever you want, but make sure you eat everything... ahem ahem... We spend nearly 2 hours and then its was Munch's turn... She also thought, now she can easily offer anything, as after KFC, then Empire there would be much space left inside our stomach to empty her pocket!! ahem ahem... Though we had ordered cold coffee and all from Empire, Sangy and me wanted much to take us to Cafe coffee day! she easily agreed, thinking which won't hurt her much! Poor Munch, She didn’t know that we are all prepared to have another feast at CCD!! ahem ahem.. There as well the RHS item ordering went on.. and she also got enough :D..
So finally, that day has become a memorable day for 3 of us! Only Sangy's Cousin Brother got escaped. I didn't know him personally, else ahem ahem... ;)
Finally while going back, Sangy gave me a big chocolate (The only thing she got me from France!!!) However, that day evening I exchanged it with Anu in the office for 2 Fish fries which she had prepared and brought for dinner!!(I love barter system :P) ahem ahem..

But in the end of the day, It was a memorable day as we had lots of fun laughing all the time... To be frank we all were laughing our heart out from 12PM onwards.... :) Had real fun.. Anu - You missed it... I life is blessed with friends like these.. :) Thanks to you all... Muaaah!!

::Jithu::

Life is FUN

Hi all,

Good day to you all... I was wondering all these while about how different is life to each and everyone... If you just look at the each individual, you will realize that, everyone has everything in life - hope, love, affection, hatred, happiness, break ups, sorrows, loneliness, selfishness, attractions, frustrations, infatuations, crush, accidents, surprises and lot more other emotions and feelings those may not be able to define... Everyone experiences or go through these stages.. But not in a defined manner.. No one is sure about what, where and when things are going to happen... And I guess this uncertainty of life makes it more enjoyable at times.. Else there would be no fun...

So let me come to the matter here.. Last month I had been to my hometown to meet my parents and friends.. And my mom told me that we have some guests at home from US those were my Dad's best friend's (Peter Uncle) kids - Joji, Regi, Lizzy and her kid Akshay... Peter Uncle - We call him as "Chachan" and his family is very close to us... He and his wife are in US now. He could not come to India as he is very old and also suffering from amnesia... But his children say, Chachan still remembers my dad very well..


They used to come here once in 2 years or so. But this time I came to know that they have come here for an important function. i.e. Lizzy chechi's marriage. I was clueless as she had come with her kid Akshay - a 10 year old cute boy.. She is into her mid 30s but she looks not more than 25.. She looks so pretty with her very thick long hair (almost touching her back knees) she is a very humble and loving woman i have ever seen.. And I could not believe that she got divorced. And I knew that she has got a very decent job and earns huge there.. It was she who brought her husband to US after their marriage. I really felt bad for what happened to her life..

Then My mother explained me the real story..
Her husband actually used her to reach US and then he got addicted to drugs and also he had an affair with another woman. They got separated (She had to give half of her properties to him as per US rules) and he got married to that other girl. After that she was living with her kid alone for the last 5-6 years.. And now her kid little Akshay, wanted her to get married as he found that she might find it difficult to take care of things all alone.. (Hats-off to little Akashay). And I was amazed to hear that its because of his decision she decided to think of a second marriage... She is lucky to have a son like him...
Their engagement was on the day I reached my hometown. It’s just 9kms away from my house. Only 10-15 close family members and my family were present for that small function... There I saw different faces of life:
Happy but curious Lil' Alshay.. Very much tensed Lizzy chechi, as she is very much worried about her future husband.. May be she is still having the bitter past in her mind... Also I could see Joji uncle and Reji uncle with tensed faces as they are also worried about their little sister's second marriage [of course they are].. There are kids who are playing around.. Having fun... There was the priest who is doing the prayers for the new couple.. The new bridegroom and his family came all the way from 200KMS for this engagement function.. The photographer who is looking out to capture the less but important moments for them… Catering people are waiting to serve the food.... A lot of mixed emotions and feelings.. And Me who is watching all these silently in that hall.. Though I could see her smiling, knew that what was going through her mind.... Hmm.. All she can do is to pray to the God and be positive...

They were staying in our house for another 4-5 days before they left to US. And while we were just talking to each other one late night, they had told me how uncertain the life can be... They said they struggled a lot before they all got settled in US... and once they all settled in US they had lots of fun.. all of their siblings got married and settled in US.. They earn more than enough for a luxyary life... There wasn’t any chance for a sadness in their life.. But still it happened.. So they advised me, not to just be happy or worried about the situation what we are in right now... We should move on.. When we have a good time or a bad time, remember that there is a future awaiting us.. So be truthful to you and your family.. Believe in God... and have a wonderful life.. :)

Life has got all the ingredients to make a rare blend of happiness, love, sadness, loneliness, madness, hatred, fun, surprises etc... It’s you who decides how to mix it all together and whether to cry or laugh.. to feel sad or be happy... to be with friends or be alone...


It’s your life... blend it - the way you wanted! Have fun...

::Jithu::

A real surprise!

Hey friends..

Its been so long since I wrote something here.. Was bit busy with some official and personal work all this while... however, I got to share a glad news here with you all... I hope, you all would have read the post about my great phone friend Manjukkuty! (http://i-am-jithu.blogspot.com/2008/02/waitingwith-heart-full-of-hopes.html). In fact i was in tears while writing both the posts... The difference is that the first one was written with a broken heart... But this one is with a more relaxed mind...

It was on a boring Sunday of May, I was surfing through the internet... downloading movies... Chit chatting with some of my friends, reading movie reviews etc.. But suddenly, I got to see an alert for someone just logged in... I was half sleepy but shocked to see the person who just logged in... Its my dear friend Manjukkutty! For a while I felt like I might be dreaming... Because I used to day dreams those days... but then she pinged me..." Jithuchettayeee....".. I was like... Shocked to believe my senses... In fact I was forced to believe that she had passed away after her surgery as I didn’t get to hear from her for such a long period.. I asked her "is it really you or someone else.." then she replied with her regular humor sense.. "No its my soul from heaven chatting with you...".. I was so happy to see her in her normal mood.. Then I asked her about the surgery and all.. she replied "No one can take me that easily to the top world as I had put on lots of weight these days". The same old naughty manjukkutty!
In fact I couldn’t talk to her much, as she had to sign out.. But she told me the whole story in short.. She had successfully undergone the heart surgery and was taking rest at her brother's house in Chennai... She is completely out of danger now.. And the doctors said it’s a miracle to get her back to life.. She still needs to take rest for some more months before she could get back to normal life... She just got a chance to come online from a laptop.. And she didn't miss that chance... :) [No wonder].
However, I am so happy to see her back in action... I wish her a great happy life ahead... I must thank you each and everyone who had shared their wishes and prayers for her long life... Thanks to all of you for your prayers and wishes..

Its a great feeling when we get to see someone back in life whom we believed to be lost for ever.. It is more pleasing when we get back our dear friend in a world where we lose friends everyday!

All I need to tell you people is just one thing - God is great; trust him and he will never let you down...

Good day!

::Jithu::

L.I.F.E. is a pain...

I was walking through the rain…
Carrying a heavy heart full of pain…
I didn’t know that I was crying…
I didn’t know that my eyes were wet…

I saw many friends of mine…
But no one could see me crying…
I guess my tears were so small…
To cheat my friend's eyes...

May be I am worrying too much…
May be I’ve gone emotionally mad…
May be my nerves are dying…
Or may be it’s me who is dying….

How long I can hold it? I am not sure,
But as long as I hold it,
I will hold it with a smile…
I will hold it with a smile…

I wish if no one could see me crying…

I wish if no one could see me dying...

Baby, just can't let you go..

For the Girl I love the most....

Hey baby... ohh baby...

It’s you who made me feel that i am loved...
It’s you who taught me the meaning of love...
It’s you who made me smile when I was totally down...
It’s you who gave me a hand while I was drowning in loneliness...

How could I smile when your eyes are wet?
How would I sleep when you have nightmares?
When I can’t even stand a tear in your eyes,
Tell me baby how will I let you go away from me?

It’s you with whom I shared all my feelings..
It’s you with whom I enjoyed the pleasure of being loved...
It’s you baby with whom I learnt the meaning of real love...,
And it’s you whom I love the most... Yes, it’s you dear!

Let me cry, when you feel sad,
I can’t stand when you cry so loud...
Let me take the pain, when you are hurt,
I can’t stand when tears rolls over your cheeks...

Please baby, please... wipe off your tears...
Leave all your worries and sorrows...
I don't want you to feel sad anymore,
Lets have a new beginning with all happiness, Lets have a life...

No matter what happens, I will be there for you dear…
Holding your hands... standing by you....
To kiss you, to hug you, to love you…
Till my very last breath, I will be there for you...

I just want to tell you something...
Just can’t leave you for anything, I will never...
You are mine, and only mine,
Baby, just cant let you go...

LIFE - is full of seasons

There was a man who had four sons. He wanted his sons to learn not to judge things too quickly. So he sent them each on a quest, in turn, to go and look at a pear tree that was a great distance away.The first son went in the winter, the second in the spring, the third in summer, and the youngest son in the fall. When they had all gone and come back, he called them together to describe what they had seen. The first son said that the tree was ugly, bent, and twisted. The second son said no it was covered with green buds and full of promise. The third son disagreed; he said it was laden with blossoms that smelled so sweet and looked so beautiful, it was the most graceful thing he had ever seen.The last son disagreed with all of them; he said it was ripe and drooping with fruit, full of life and fulfillment. The man then explained to his sons that they were all right, because they had each seen but only one season in the tree's life. He told them that you cannot judge a tree, or a person, by only one season, and that the essence of who they are and the pleasure, joy, and love that come from that life can only be measured at the end, when all the seasons are up. If you give up when it's winter, you will miss the promise of your spring, the beauty of your summer, fulfillment of your fall.Don't let the pain of one season destroy the joy of all the rest. Don't judge life by one difficult season.

Why Do People Struggle in Life??

I always wonder, why do we people struggle in their life?? I believe that our destiny is decided byour attitude in life and not by anything else... I would like to define struggle as "An emotional and mental state where we find our life deviating from the way we wish to have to a stage where we never wish to get into..." But ee cannot classify this at any point of time... Because it’s totally up that individual to decide whether he or she is struggling or not...

If an individual cannot enjoy or did not satisfy about the place in life where he stands, which makes him feel that he is struggling... If there is happiness in everything we do, then there is no struggling, because no one would complain or frustrated of their happiness... And if even after being happy they feel they are struggling.. there are some other terms like arrogance... greedy... etc...

But the most interesting thing that I have found out in life is that, though we have 99 things favouring us and if one thing doesn’t come out as much as we expected, then we feel very sad about it and get into such a state where we are struggling.. just because of that 1 thing we are not happy.. So what about the other 99 things which came in your way? Lets take the case of a millionaire, though he has money, Car, big house, servants, etc, he would not be happy if he fails in his love life, because that is something what he cannot buy... And because of that single failure his life might get screwd up... In the other end, The ordinary person might be happy in his love life, his kids.. his family.. but still, would be worried about other things in life like - House, Car, etc.
So, as I conclude, I strongly believe that the main reason for us to struggle is nothing but "Too much of EXPECTATION" in life... Because we often forget many good things and struggle in life because of expecting for something that never gonna happen...

So my dear friends... Deliver more Expect less... Live your life happily....

Keep smiling and wish you all a very happy Easter!

::Jithu::

The real value of Relationship!

A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and the boy was the gem of their eyes. When the boy was around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle open.
He was late for office so he asked his wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard. His wife, preoccupied in the kitchen totally forgot the matter.

The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle fascinated by its color and drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed the mother hurried him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned. She was terrified how to face her husband.
When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife and uttered just five words.

QUESTIONS:

1. What were the five words?
2. What is the implication of this story?

ANSWER:

The husband just said "I am with you Darling"

The husband's totally unexpected reaction is a proactive behavior. The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no point in finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he had taken time to keep the bottle away, this would not have happened. No one is to be blamed. She had also lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband.
That is what he gave her. If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world. "A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.


" Take off all your envies, jealousies,unforgiveness, selfishness, and fears. And you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think.


MORAL OF THE STORY
This story is really worth reading. ..... Sometimes we spend time in asking who is responsible or whom to blame, whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know. By this way we miss out some warmth In human relationship.

The Art of Self Appraisal!

A little boy went into a drug store, reached for asoda carton and pulled it over to the telephone. Heclimbed onto the carton so that he could reach thebuttons on the phone and proceeded to punch in sevendigits (phone numbers).The store-owner observed and listened to theconversation:Boy: "Lady, Can you give me the job of cutting yourlawn?Woman: (at the other end of the phone line): "Ialready have someone to cut my lawn."Boy: "Lady, I will cut your lawn for half the price ofthe person who cuts your lawn now."Woman: I'm very satisfied with the person who ispresently cutting my lawn.Boy: (with more perseverance): "Lady, I'll even sweepyour curb and your sidewalk, so on Sunday you willhave the prettiest lawn in all of Palm beach , Florida."Woman: No, thank you.With a smile on his face, the little boy replaced thereceiver. The store-owner, who was listening to allthis, walked over to the boy.Store Owner: "Son... I like your attitude; I like thatpositive spirit and would like to offer you a job."Boy: "No thanks,Store Owner: But you were really pleading for one.Boy: No Sir, I was just checking my performance at thejob I already have. I am the one who is working forthat lady, I was talking to!"This is what I call "Self Appraisal"

Here is A Nice Article about Love - By Swami Vivekananda.

I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me. Once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she filled the palm of her hand with some water and held it before me, and said this: "You see this water carefully contained on my hand? It symbolizes Love."This was how I saw it: As long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt to close your fingers round it and try to posses it, it will spill through the first cracks it finds.This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love...they try to posses it, they demand, they expect... and just like the water spilling out of your hand, love will retrieve from you . For love is meant to be free, you cannot change its nature. If there are people you love, allow them to be free beings.Give and don't expect.Advise, but don't order.Ask, but never demand.It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly practice. It is the secret to true love. To truly practice it, you must sincerely feel no expectations from those who you love, and yet an unconditional caring."Passing thought... Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take; but by the moments that take our breath away.....Life is beautiful!!! Live it!!!

Love - Who got it defined.

Hey,
Just a small debate here.. How do you define love??

Is it just something which people do it for their personal gain??
Is it something for the sake of just living with someone??
Is it just another term for lust?? or infactuation...???
Do you really think Love makes a person dependant on the other for his/her happiness??
Or is it pure feelings comes out directly from heart for unconditionally??

Friends shoot your thoughts on this.. and lets have a discussion on this.... :)

The Monday mOOn :)

I don't know how did I write this poem... but I just wrote... Don't know whether it holds any meaning.. but still posting.. After all its my first poem in my life.. :). here it goes - The Monday moon...

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Monday moon makes me cry...
Oneday I am gonna make him dry...
Sunday the day, let me give a try!

I wonder, why do I cry at this monday moon...
Don't know whats wrong with this monday moon,
But now, I really feel tired of this Monday Moon...

Is it just a spot or really a moon?
I really don't know whats so special,
But its a wonder moon to me!

Though it makes me cry very soon,
I don't think its a guilty goon..
Because I still love my monday Moon!

With Love from Middle Berth…

Like many other people, I too like train journey a lot. It’s a long journey, where we can have the fun of travelling and the joy of site seeing... When I got the call from my cricket team coach for the cricket match in Bangalore, I felt very happy… I heard a lot about the Bangalore’s crowd… especially Girls! So its all decided and finally the day has come… Though the train was at 9.30PM, we reached the station by 7PM itself: The BIRDS in my hometown are also as attractive as its in BangaloreJ. Finally, we got into the train… Because of the hectic rush, we got the berths in different places. I have got the berth in S10 along with my friend - Anand. He got the upper berth and me - the middle berth.
Soon after we entered, a family got into the compartment with big luggage and other stuffs. Anyone can easily understand that its a Mallu family settled in Bangalore going back after a long vacation. A middle aged person and his family – Wife, his daughter(hmm I think she is in her 10th standard) and his son who is just about 2-3 years of old also an old lady I guess she is their nanny - somewhere in 80s. They have got 3 berths in the other side and one by our side – the lower one. We passed a smile to all of them... After all they are going to be with us inside this compartment for the entire night right.. That person was very friendly in nature and soon we started off with a conversation… When her father asked us where we are going, my friend shouted loudly “we are district cricket team members and are going to Bangalore for a Cricket tournament!” Poor fellow! He felt, people will be impressed to see professional cricketers… but to his disappointment, that person responded this way – “Why you kids are wasting your life by playing cricket... Can’t you concentrate in your studies and get some good jobs…?” For this comment, his daughter passed a cute smile but did not say anything… (Hmm…she is slowly getting on to our track, we thought…) Though we were having a common discussion, only her dad and mom bothered to respond… Her grand mom was praying all this time and her naughty crooked brother, though he can’t speak anything clearly, was good at showing irritating gestures towards us... Stupid kid! :D all this while, she was just being a silent listener - as if she is a very serious person, but WHO CARES! hmm but at times she used to pass some smiles at our witty numbers… we then changed out tactics… Later time, we were trying to win her brother’s heart by offering cool drinks, ice creams and chocolates to him.. But that little devil took everything we offered but never bothered to friend with us… SHAMELESS CHEATER!

Time went past… we had dinner… still no positive response from the girl.. Ahem ahem.. Seems like a tough customer I felt… But Anand was still busy giving his last try - pretending as if he is recollecting some of his old (fake) stories (Like he hit 3 sixes in successive balls to win a match bla bla), which is his last and regular tool to impress people, especially when there are girls around.. But as usual, its of no use… no one in fact showed any interest to give any attention to those boring stories… Slowly we given up and thought of sleeping, so as that family... The girl stepped on to the upper berth and was about to sleep.. And her mom got on to the middle berth and her nanny already FLAT on the lower berth.. When her father took that naughty kid on the lower berth for sleeping, the kid started crying to get on to the middle berth, It seems he needs to touch his mom whenever he wants but is not ready to sleep with her (what a weird habit, Isn’t it?). Still his father tried his best to fit him by his mom’s side, but the kid was stubborn with his decision that he will sleep with his father only but he also want to touch her mom as well… GRR…

Then my idiot friend Anand came in for the rescue... He offered MY berth to them even without asking me! He said – “Jithu, why don’t you let them sleep on the middle berth da.. He will be happy then..” More than pleasing them, that @$$ wanted me to go totally out of that girl’s sight!! As soon as he made his announcement, her father was looking at me for a response or rather he was expecting me to get down off the middle berth, and as she was also looking at me to know what is happening, I could not say a NO in this situation and I had to say - “Ohh no problem Uncle,No prolem at all”. In my mind I was searching for new abusing words for my friend who offered my berth to that person… However, I was happy about the fact that I have got a chance to get her sympathy with my broad minded attitude... Ahem ahem…

Slowly I fell asleep and was dreaming about the film Titanic which I had watched recently… I kicked Leonardo Dicaprio out of the scenes and filled in myself for his role... Kate Winslet was very happy to see me in place of Dicaprio… Everything was perfect… James Cameron described me the scene and we were shooting all the sequences.... Meeting Rose… falling in love.. the famous spitting competition…Titanic pose… then we were getting ready for the sinking of the ship… everything was perfect.. clear sky… shining stars… but suddenly it started drizzling… I wondered, in the movie there was no rain.. then how come suddenly… PLING.. PLING… Ohh.. Few drops fell on my face as well.. ohh its really raining now and its getting stronger, I felt.. Who knows, it may give some added effects to the film than the original one.. and after all rain is the symbol of romance, so its ok with me… I was getting ready for the shot.. but then I realized, it tastes salty!

I woke up from my sleep and closed my eyes tightly to see if I were really dreaming… I slowly realized..Yes, I was dreaming all this time!! FFEWW… Yet another dream!! The ship… The ocean... Rain, James Cameron, Kate Winslet all disappeared from my mind but except one… The salty taste in my mouth… I opened my eyes… I woke up slowly.. The train was still moving smoothly with its rhythmic sound… I rubbed my eyes…. Then I realized, my face is really wet and it tasted salty!!! Somehow, I got my nerves back and woke up from the berth and switched on the lights.. Then I realized, It wasn’t the salty rain which I dreamt of… It was nothing but the naughty lil devil’s tank was leaking while he was sleeping… In simple words- That little stupid idiot PEED on me!!! “AaaaaaHHH Grrrrrrrrrrrr, What the hell is this!!” I shouted.. All in the compartment woke up.. and I was standing in the middle with wet face!!! I was speechless… His father apologized to me and said, sometimes he does so! I could not look at the side where his sister was sleeping… In midst I saw Anand - struggling to control his laughter!! Bloody bugger!!
While going towards the washbasin, I could hear his father telling the boy – “baby, Why did u PEE on his face... See he how sad he is now… never repeat it okie sweettu?” and then follows by my friend’s dialogue – “Its okie uncle... No problem.. He is just a kid na.. “

I could not do much, than cursing my fate…

Indian Youngsters Eye for new hights.. An example..

Nothing to comment.. the pic shows it all :P

Joke of the DAY!!

Got this mallu joke from my friend just now... :)

What is de difference between CHICKEN GUNIYA and CHAPPATHI???? Think.... ? ? ? ? ?? ??? ????? ????????? ????????? ???????????????????????????? ???????????????????????"

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CHICKEN GUNIYA " Kothuku parathum..... but "CHAPATHI" nammal thanne parathanam mone.................

LOL

::Jithu::

My standings and misunderstandings... :P

Note: There is nothing like - Crush, Love or infatuation here, May be some genuine characteristics of a typical Sagittarius!

Hmm… It was on a fine Sunday I met her for the first time... During my visit to my home town a month ago, I was asked to go to a party of my mom’s colleague Mr. Menon sir’s son’s wedding… Initially though I hesitated to go with her, then later considering the crowd factor I agreed to go.. Rather I had to go to my mom and tell her that – “Mom I am getting bored here… So I am also coming...”. Because she had stopped forcing me after I said that I am not going to come for the reception party! I actually did not want to waste a chance for cream bird watching in Thrissur…

So It was after my friend come neighbor – Joy’s Sister’s marriage, we all got ready to go for the reception. My Chechi and her naughty daughter were also there along with us for the reception. As I drove in, I could see the some colors (I mean BIRDS - can’t translate anymore…)

But there is not as much I was expecting.. It was a Sunday evening… and all I could see is my mom’s colleagues… L Only old people.. most of them are in the edge of retirement… Not many young bloods other than some kids playing here and there… For a moment I felt, I shouldn't have come here… But all of a sudden, I saw a young, fresh face among those old faces… she was talking to people...walking all around the auditorium with a broad smile on face… hmm... She is not bad... I said myself… May be because she got some facial resemblance to the film actress Namita (Only FACIAL similaritiesJ)! Hmm but her smile was good enough to catch my attention! Ahem ahem… But I could not do much as my sister was following my every step with her watchful eyes along with her, more watchful daughter… I think She also saw me looking at her, and may be because of that she was forcing mom to go back home! Hmm... While walking towards the car parking, I saw her standing at the front door of the auditorium... Gehhh! Is she following me now, I had a doubt and that is quite obvious!! But she never looked at me L - blind girls! I rushed to the car parking and took my car in a hurry to reach the entrance before she goes from there… I took my car in style near the entrance… Though I was visible to her by the time reached, my crooked sister blocked my sight very intelligently so that even if that girl turns towards us, she won’t be able to see me! Even if it was not intentional, my sister got an ability to do things like this very often, what a pity! And with a sigh, I drove back home…

Reached Bangalore on Tuesday and again, the same stupid life… but on next Monday, I got to know from my teammates that there is a new girl on the floor that too very close to the place where our team members sit… ahem… Ahem… When I saw her, I could not believe myself… she looks the same as the previous girl whom I was talking about earlier. But some changes in the outlook and ornaments… though the smile and face resemble, not much cuteness as the previous one had… and a lil bit fatty too… But I was so surprised to see her anyways… By the way does that really matter?? For us yet another Bird in the floor…:D yeehoo! I heard someone yelling once that Bird watching in the early morning relishes your mind! I think there is something about that…

Days went past in the same pattern.. but today when I got into the cab at 5.15Am for my morning shift… Believe it or not.. Instead of the regular boring faces (sorry mates... but it is really) of my other cab mates (only malesL), I saw her there inside the cab!! As soon as I entered, my cab driver started asking me the news at home and other details… He is also a Mallu!! Actually I wanted to thank him that time since he made me to speak Malayalam - I was thinking of how to make her understand that I am the same Mallu guy she met that day in Thrissur at the function. I could see her looking at me when I speak to the cab driver so friendly.. I felt hmm she is impressed!! Ha ha! But why is she hesitating to speak? Hmm may be a starting trouble… I thought of starting a conversation... But you know, what the words just don’t come out.. “Bloody useless idiot”, I cursed myself for not being smart when it is really needed… Hmm… Then I thought, let’s get out of the office… as she is in the same floor we will get some time while walking towards the office… that time I can start a conversation… As wished, when we entered inside the lift, surprisingly there was no security guard!! Ahem ahem!! The door closed!! I took all my strength and asked her – “Hey, Have I met u earlier??? I have seen you in Trichur… Do you remember??”

I was expecting a surprised face with a big smile on the face, but that did not happen -instead I saw one confused face followed by a question – “th-hri –chur??? Nooooo!!”
Now I doubt, whether she is a Malayali or not!! Anyways, I said “ Ohh Is it.. Ohh So stupid of me.. Sorry I think I am mistaken...” Thankfully, by this time we reached the 5th floor and I got out as if I am running to beat Rajadhani Express! but while the security guard was checking my laptop bag, she said “Buh Bye.. See you!”… Budding yet another hope to my imaginations… She went past me with a smile… And I went slowly towards my desk for yet another boring day in my life!

Same situation...Different People.. Different Thoughts..

Hey..

Here comes yet another weird activity from the naughty boy... on a Sunday morning.. suddenly I woke up and from no where I got a scenario in mind.. Offcource a weird one! :D!! I sent it as a SMS to my roomie.. who had been to his father's place.. his answer was so interesting.. then I felt, what would others be thinking about the same situation.. first I sent sms to some of my friends.. their replies were too interesting.. My dear friends felt that I am in such a situation and in need of some serious advice!! And most of them responded very seriously thinking I really needed some help.. Ummaaaah.. Love you all... but I am sorry.. :) Because of the variety and thoughtful contents... I have decided that i will send this to as many people I know and will see how they all respond to this.. And the results were so amazing... :D So here goes the real scenario... and below to that some selected responses from my friends.. :) By the by, though its a weird thought from me... you all responded well... i got more than 100 responses.. hmm I really got a lot of friends here.. Ahem ahem! Thanks to all for your prompt responses... :)

Hi Friends..
I needed some inputs/thoughts from you all on below given scenario. Please think as an individual and give me your thoughts on this. I have already received some information from some, but some were confused with the scenario. So here the scenario goes like this:
You were in love with someone in the past. You both were having a great time.. and both loved each other a lot. After some 2-3 years you broke up because of some reason (both have their own reasons). Now after 1 year, You met a new person with whom, first you had friendship.. and then gradually got closer.. The new person understands your feelings and supports you… That person looking to have a relationship with you, ready to forget and forgive you on your past relationship… Then the twist… Your Old love comes back to you… Realizing the mistakes.. Apologizing.. It’s all because of some misunderstanding.. neither one’s mistake just a communication gap. And now your Old love has come to you leaving everything behind, for you!!
But, You have already started the arrangements for your engagement with your new lover… And that person is all excited about it… Now what would you do ?? Your break up with the old love was just a misunderstanding… neither one’s mistake.. And your old love has come back to you leaving everything once realized that the break up was just some communication problem.. Your current love was ready to forget and forgive you for everything and is all excited about getting engaged.. So I just want to know your inputs or your thinking on these 2 persons who love you more than anything… Please friends… If you have some time.. please respond…. I am waiting…

So this was the mail/sms all about.... and here we go with some of the most interesting responses... with an analysis of the total response..

None of the Males were in a confused state where in more than 45% of Females were in a confused state!!! :) To my surprise, all my female friends who are in a relationship, did not have a firm decision.. ahem ahem!! ALL THE COMMITTED FEMALES ARE IN A CONFUSED STATE!! It means that when emotional decisions to be taken, most of the females get confused while almost all the males have a firm decision.. hmmm interesting isnt it? Here are some of the interesting responses which I noted down..

Guys - Single:
" Don’t let them go machha. In fact first love is the one that you should never compromise with and the one whom you are gonna get engaged with is ready to accept you even after knowing the past bitchy stories. Both are lovely but if you want one of them then you have to find out which one is more compatible with you, if you cannot let either of them go then you have to make both of them understand and have a split relationship with both of them. Cheeers!!!!! Girls come and go but the right ones stay…………"

“Since there is a decision taken by the person saying that he will marry the new girlfriend. I think u have to go ahead with that. It is just possesiveness of the old girl friend and who knows there might be again a mis- communication later in life.”

" wateva it is da, you shoudln have gone away in the first place. If you happen to meet again its only a new person who can undrstand you better after all this. So better stick on to present and forget the past. According to me History should not repeat ;) Present should succeed :) thats the most satisfiying thing."

I personally feel that individual should carry on with the engagement. Coz past is past and to the person he is committed now holds more value. He should inform her ex lover about what is currently going on. It really matters if u hurt a person whom you are committed now. Neither it was that individuals fault nor her ex lovers fault, all that is playing tricks is mighty “TIME”

" I have many resolutions to this and they are listed below. Please choose the one that best suits you. (1). Ask Karan Johar for a climax.(2). Ditch both of 'em and go find a 3rd person.(3). Accept both and ... you know.."

Guys -Committed:
" choose one with big b**bs ..."
" Once you are committed then never look back, if you are dong so then you are making a mistake."
" Marry both :)"

Guys - broken Relationship:
" But i will assure u that i will never curse u or hate u ( 1st one ) .. U will be always my friend :)

" You should always go ahead with the new love only if the old breakup was not just because of you. And it is always preferable not to tell or ask about one’s past to the person with whom you are gonna get married. That you will understand in the future, its not a joke. But yea, if both are that understanding and of same kind then its ok.But I will never ask you to breakup with the new girl and go back to the old GF. What big thought have you guys got to make it up at this stage, and moreover, don’t screw another girl’s life who is an innocent person and who doesn’t have any right to suffer because of you and your Ex GF."

Guys - Married:
" Forget the past, Progress with the present."

" I'll kick her butt n say "Tu nahin to koi aur sahi, koi aur nahin to koi aur sahi" This is my sincere advice."

" I would remain a good friend with the Old. Go ahead and commit myself for the new. Reason : For the old one there was no past and you were a choice. For the new one, you had a past and now you have a choice, but still she wanted to be with you."

Girls - Single:
" Reg 1st Person :
I will be thankful to him that he realizes the misunderstandings & comes back to me.But i wont go with him because once i broke all the relation with him & about to start a new life with someone else who agreed already to forgive me for all my past & also i started giving my love & started trusting someone new... But i will assure u that i will never curse u or hate u ( 1st one ) .. U will be always my friend :)
Reg 2nd Person :
If u r forgiving me for sympathy , then i assure u that i won't be no more with u , but at the same time i won't go back to the 1st one.Because once the trust is lost it's really tough to get into that relation again. but if u r sincere, Am thankful to you for forgiving me for my past.Am ready to be with u always :) Now... in case of me , i wont go for a new relation since i had a bitter past.. :) if the 2nd guy really loves me then i would tell him to consult my parents & take the final decision... But here its already the arrangements for the engagement is getting ready.. so there is no problem.. :) "

" you should stride forward into the future without even looking back. when u needede sm1 the most this new person gave u the support and when this person needs u ;u shoudnt be a fair wheather bird.thts all i gotta say. :) "

" I think u shud stay with ur current love. If the first person left u coz of som misunderstandings and comes back coz she/he regrets it,then it is highly likely that she/he may have a misunderstandng abt u in future too.. Mistakes shud be forgiven and u can take him/her back as a friend..but if u hav given ur word to a new person who knew everything and still loved u,may be u shd keep loving him/her"

Girls – Committed:
“ If I were in this situation, I would opt to marry my new love coz i cannot break the hopes of a person who has loved and understood me soo much and has accepted me with my past. Not saying that my old love is bad, but may be he was too late..”

“i wud go for the new person who has accepted me the way i am..the old person seems to be prone to misunderstandings..!!”

"I will be thankful to him that he realizes the misunderstandings & comes back to me.But i wont go with him because once i broke all the relation with him & about to start a new life with someone else who agreed already to forgive me for all my past & also i started giving my love & started trusting someone new..."

Girls - Married:
" communication gap, it shows the immaturity in the relationship.and the second person understands u more and have given u all the support when u needed it. And of course u have started loving the second girl/guy."

“I say marry both ...variety is spice of life..heheheheheh”

Girls – Broken relationship:
“Even if I broke up with my first love, it doesn’t mean that I will go for another one with keeping my old love in my heart. I won’t even think about a new one into my life until and unless I get sure that I can forget my old love and can get along with a new person. and once if I decided to move on with the new one, I wont leave him who is ready to accept and love me as the way am and ready to forgive and forget me for what all happened in my past. it doesn’t mean that I hate my old love/not ready to forgive/understand him or the reason with which we got broken up, but its cuz, I should understand the one who is ready to accept me along with my minus points ....Coz the one who can understand our pains and problems and can accept the unhappy past, they know the meaning of LOVE...”

I believe this particular post shows us the modern view of humans (At least Indian mentality - The responses are from south and north Indians of different relationship statuses of both genders) towards love and relationships... I have seen people, who waste their life crying for their old lovers who have dumped them… I have seen people who find love as part time activity… I have seen people, who are carrying unhealthy relationships… I dedicate this post to all those amazing friends of mine to have a rethink on their mentality on the modern thinking world!!

So I hope, may this be an insight to all those guys and girls who are still confused to take important decisions of their life on such relationships.

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Till I get my next stupid thought... Its me Jithu, signing off! Cya...
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Revenge!

May be a very familiar story for all mallus... but still.. for those who did not hear about this before.. :)

A group of Ants were going on top of a wooden bridge... they were going to attend their friend's wedding at the other side of the small canal... They were very well dressed up and happy... The wooden bridge was very old.. Then suddenly an Elephant came in from nowhere... And got on to the bridge... The ants shouted at him saying - "Hey, Please don't get on to the bridge... It’s very old and weak.. It will fall down if you step in...” Then the elephant, said, "I don't care.. I know how to swim...” Then the ants requested - "Please wait till we reach the other end... we have a marriage to attend...” But the elephant, did not listen to them and got on to the bridge.. Within seconds, because of his weight, the bridge has fallen down with a huge sound... So as the elephant and the ants... Some of the ants got on to the banks because of the waves in the water... They all were so angry and frustrated and searched for the the elephant and found him standing in the middle of the canal with a naughty smile on his face.... Then they suddenly noticed 1-2 of their friends standing on top of the elephant... They somehow got on to his body when they fell down from the bridge... Seeing this opportunity, one of the angry young ants shouted at his friends who stand on the elephant- “Kick that jerk and sink that bloody son of a bitch!! @#$#@$!#$#!$!#$!"

Living or Rushing?

Hey Friends, I had a quick thought when I read one big mail among many of the forwarded mails, which I received today... I usually ignore such BIG mails, once i find it boring or useless after reading the first 3-4 lines of it... But this mail though being a big mail, made me sit and read completely today - during my 4th day break time of my ITIL training session. I feel really happy about reading this mail during the break time itself. It gave me a chance to rethink on my life style and I hope may be some of you, like me would also find it helpful.

Author talks about the need of quality living over fast living... He uses some simple examples which might make us stop reading for a while and put us in a thinking mode... For example, He says about the FAST FOOD era here, which in real life shows how fast we people are trying to live… The real enjoyment in eating comes when we enjoy our food... i.e. when we take our time to taste the food that we eat… So what are we expecting from something called fast food??? Instead in this era people are rushing and rushing... And while rushing, I feel that we people usually forget to live our CURRENT LIFE... Why are we rushing?? Why we always want to finish everything in a hurry?? There is no answer… Why do we expect an immediate result in everything we do? Confused?? To help us to get an answer, the author talks about the point of slow living...

He talks about the life style of people in Sweden. Globalized processes have caused in us (all over the world) a general sense of searching for immediate results. Therefore, we have come to possess a need to see immediate results. This contrasts greatly with the slow movements of the Swedish. They, on the other hand, debate, debate, debate, hold x quantity of meetings and work with a slowdown scheme. At the end, this always yields better results.

According to the author, this no-rush attitude doesn't represent doing less or having a lower productivity. It means working and doing things with greater quality, productivity, perfection, with attention to detail and less stress. It means reestablishing family values, friends, free and leisure time. Taking the "now", present and concrete, versus the "global", undefined and anonymous. It means taking humans' essential values, the simplicity of living. According to him, this stands for a less coercive work environment, more happy, lighter and more productive where humans enjoy doing what they know best how to do. It's time to stop and think on how companies need to develop serious quality with no-rush that will increase productivity and the quality of products and services, without losing the essence of spirit.

I totally agree with the author on this point. What is the use of working 8 hours a day with a frustrated or tensed mind?? Neither the work will be done nor the person going to have a peace of mind. I would rather go with working 2-3 hours, with a happy and a dedicated mind. In fact the productivity will be better in this case than the former scenario. It is the same case in everything that we do in life. I strongly feel that we should first live our life than getting anxious about the future living. Because the anxiety never ends as long as there is future and once the future is o more, there ends our so called life. He has quoted a film dialogue which goes like this “The life is lived in an instant”, which in fact is true, because no one is guaranteed on his future.

We all have time to live in this world, but what really matters in the end is how long we LIVED than preparing for the future living. So friends, one question to you people… Are you LIVING your life or still rushing? Give it a thought… Time for me to rejoin the ITIL class, Thanks to that anonymous author for giving such a beautiful thought for me… I would be happier, if this small piece of thought could make some of you to do a rethinking on making their life a LIVING than RUSHING.
Cya…